The Art of Mindful Communication: How Our Criticism Can Shape or Break Relationships

In a world where every click, every like, and every message carries deep meaning, the ability to interact with others with kindness and understanding becomes a true art. We’ve become so accustomed to saying what we think, but sometimes we forget that words can leave a much deeper mark than we anticipate. Let’s talk about how to share with others in a way that doesn’t hurt but helps and inspires.

1. Understanding Criticism:

Often, people believe that criticism is just “telling it like it is.” But where is the line between honesty and unnecessary harshness? When people say, “I’m just expressing my opinion,” they rarely consider what it’s like to be on the receiving end.

Recall the last time someone criticized you. Did you feel hurt or bitter? Many people take criticism as a personal attack, even if it was given with the best intentions.

As soon as we speak about another person, our opinion becomes a judgment. Regardless of whether we speak disapprovingly or approvingly, we still place ourselves above the object of our attention, believing we understand better how they should live. But the other person doesn’t need someone else’s approval, evaluation, and control, especially in matters that concern only them, and if they didn’t ask for it. By doing this, we don’t help or improve anything; we just intrude into someone’s life with our measure and push their boundaries. This often results in a defensive reaction, anger, or detachment, and the interlocutor will not accept the information we want to convey.
Yes, our remark may be objective, but people are not always ready to accept objective truth, especially if it comes unexpectedly. Meanwhile, we must not forget that our perception of truth is also subjective. Our words and criticism are formed based on our personal beliefs, experience, and worldview. What seems “wrong” to us may be the perfect solution for someone else.

2. High-Quality Feedback:

Feedback is a tool that can promote growth and development in a person, provided that it is presented correctly and not subconsciously perceived as an accusation. It’s an opportunity to grow and develop…